Playful bantering or gentle flirting with someone outside of marriage has mostly been considered the natural expression of a usually attractive personality and may even be harmless if proper boundaries remain intact.
However what was constituted occasional indulgences now stands to become serial flirting, thanks to the invasion of social networking sites into people’s bedroom. In fact text messaging has emerged as one of the most widespread tools of cheating and has the potential to wreck a relationship.
8Is flirting a big deal
However if you are just beginning to date this person and feel that his/her ‘appreciation’ goes a little further, it is best to re-examine your own priorities in a relationship.
Are you comfortable with the huge popularity your partner enjoys with members of the opposite sex or would you rather he/she not flirt at all? You have a right to decide what means most to you just as the other person has a right to look where he/she pleases.
Then again for many, flirting is an expression of an outgoing and self-confident personality.
To them it is just a part of their social behavior – a way of announcing themselves to the world and reveling in the general recognition as popular, attractive people.
Sometimes though flirting is not merely an expression of an exuberant personality but a sign of a compulsive behavior.
It may be that a person is willy-nilly drawn to attractive people around and no matter how uncomfortable his/her partner feels, sees nothing wrong in that.
However being attracted to others does not automatically mean that a person is going to cheat.
He/she may be appreciative of another person’s looks, intelligence or a quality and stop at that. Attraction does not necessarily create a temptation to cheat.